When Beth told us about her and Liz’s blog project, I was inspired to participate.  Like Michelle, I have had short hair for a long time, so I decided to grow it out.  This REALLY doesn’t feel natural to me, but I’m trying to hang with it for as long as possible.

When I first came out, I thought I had to choose one of the five lesbian haircuts.  Unfortunately, it was the 80’s, so I chose a mullet:

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Then in 1986, inspired by Aimee Mann, I added a tail:

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Eventually I settled on lesbian haircut #3, the short pixie.  It was easy to wash, looked good with or without product, and most importantly said “I’M A LESBIAN!”  Especially when I was single and looking for women.  I’ve had a variation of this cut for the past 20 years.  In a recent attempt at looking like a younger dyke I tried the fauxhawk, dyke haircut #1 on this chart:  http://memerial.net/2470-lesbian-haircuts  It didn’t work for me, so I went back to my usual cut which is closest to “The Modern Woman” on the chart.

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Now it’s 2013 and my hair is growing fast.  I can’t remember the last time it was this long.  My partner likes it longer, and says it makes me look younger.  Of course, it’s possible she likes the fact that my hair isn’t screaming “I’m a lesbian” anymore.  As my hair grows, it’s wavier than I remember it being.  Here it was actually curly, but mostly because we were in humid Hawaii:

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One of my co-workers, who is a lesbian, saw me in a meeting recently.  She said “Wow, your hair is long! And it’s… feathered.”  She did not sound like that was a good thing.  Knowing nothing about longer hair, I don’t know what I want it to look like, so I looked to the web for inspiration.  Unfortunately, this page was of no help because my hair is longer than all of these do’s: http://lesbianhair.wordpress.com/2011/02/01/heads-up/

So I just continue to let it grow and grow….

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